Questions: Chapter 10

  1. Review the case history of Tom and Sandee in the Introduction to Part 1 (page 19).  Which of the missteps described in this chapter do you think they were making?
  2. Have you, or someone you know, made any of these missteps? What happened?
  3. Which of the ten missteps strike “close to home” for you at this point in your life?  What are you going to do about it?
  4. What is the connection between misstep #1 and each of the subsequent missteps in the list? Are you sufficiently impressed by the power of romance to override good judgment or do you honestly believe that you are the exception to the rule?
  5. “Marriage seldom solves problems; it tends to magnify them” (page 156).  What does this mean? What are the ramifications for marital decision making?
  6. Imagine this scenario:  (1) you are in a relationship that has potential for marriage; (2) you recognize an issue described by one of the “missteps” in the list; (3) you raise the issue with the other person, but they downplay it or otherwise refuse to address it.  What should you do?
  7. How would you rate your overall emotional health? Are there any issues that you need to address? What steps will you take to do so?