Questions: Chapter 13

  1. How would the task of creating a “keeper profile” be different for a person who is “in a relationship” than for one who is not?  If you are presently in love with someone, is there any point in constructing a “keeper profile”? What can you do to bring objectivity to bear on this project?
  2. What are some practical ways to discern the true character of a prospective mate?
  3. Have you ever seen or experienced a romantic relationship in which there was one or more glaring difference(s) between the people involved? Was the difference complementary, incompatible, or destructive? How did the relationship work out?
  4. In what ways were your parents similar and different? How did those similarities and differences affect their marriage? (Where did they team up well? What did they argue about?) What have you learned from their experience?
  5. This chapter suggests five categories of compatibility (pages 202-203)? Does your draft of a keeper profile address all five areas? Can you assign each point in your profile to one of the five categories?
  6. If you accept the challenge to “become the profile,” what areas of your life need attention? What are you going to do to address issues that need correction and weaknesses that call for growth?
  7. Has this chapter prompted any editing of your draft? Complete your Profile of a Keeper and share it with your study group or a trusted friend. Get their feedback.  (Ask them if they know anyone who matches your profile.)