Questions: Chapter 14

  1. What do you think of the advice offered by Sherry Zimmerman? How do the elements involved in job hunting translate into one’s search for a mate? What would your “To Do” List include?
  2. Was the narrative on the history of courtship helpful to you?  How so?
  3. Of the alternative Christian “maps” of courtship, which are you inclined to follow? Why? (For a more detailed assessment of these options, see the article “Dating, Courtship, or Betrothal?” on this website.)
  4. For a summary of Joshua Harris’s critique of dating, see endnote 15 (chapter 14) on this website. Have you had any experiences that might confirm or challenge one or more of his assertions?
  5. How would you describe the “culture of dating” in your setting? Do you find it easy or difficult to engage in dating? Why?
  6. If one adopts Rosenau and Wilson’s analogy of “crossing the bridge,” what is the role of dating in each stage of courtship?
  7. What is your assessment of Cloud and Townsend’s case for healthy dating? Have you had any experiences that might confirm or challenge one or more of their assertions? Can you think of anything, positive or negative, that they might have overlooked?

Bonus question:  Have you ever worked through the “one another” passages in the New Testament? You will find a list at endnote 29 for this chapter. If you were to commit to applying these passages in your courtship, how would that affect your approach to this process?