Questions: Chapter 8

  1. “In most marriages, the point of orientation is the other spouse.  . . . In a Spirit-directed marriage, the point of orientation is Jesus” (page 127). What do these statements mean? How would these two experiences of marriage differ?
  2. In Ephesians 5, how does Paul anticipate that Jesus will influence a marriage of two Christians? What obstacles might interfere with a couples’ intention to submit to the lordship of Christ on a daily basis? What do you think a Christians spouse would need to do to maintain Jesus as the “point of orientation?”
  3. In Ephesians 5, what role is the Holy Spirit to play in a Christian marriage? How might Christian spouses facilitate and maximize the Spirit’s ministry in their lives and relationship?
  4. Take enough time to study carefully the chart: “Three Alternative Models of Marriage” (page 130). Circle the categories or elements that seem especially pertinent to you. Why do those aspects stand out to you? Can you think of any other differences between these three approaches?
  5. In what ways is marriage to be a “ministry institution” serving the cause of the Kingdom?
  6. Before reading this chapter, which model best described your own understanding of the nature of marriage? How about now? As a single person, how do you think your awareness of the three models will affect your approach to marital decision making?
  7. As you think about what you might like to experience in a marriage, how do your values compare with those of Jesus?