Questions: Chapter 9

  1. How would a restored balance between the functions of loving companionship and working partnership increase the effectiveness of a Christian couple in fulfilling the marital mission of advancing God’s kingdom?
  2. Is there any part of the quest for a “soul mate” that is beneficial? What specific pitfalls do you want to avoid?
  3. The author identifies three arenas in which a couple could carry out a working partnership: parenthood, ministry, and occupation. Can you think of any others?  How would the commitment to be a good work partner affect what you are looking for in a suitable mate?
  4. Many pastors and teachers agree that a Christians should only marry a fellow believer (2 Corinthians 6:14). How do the comments by Laura Smit and the Kellers take the spiritual dimension to another level? (Do you think it is possible for two Christians to be “unequally yoked?”)
  5. Of the insights offered by Smit and the Kellers, which ones stand out to you as especially helpful? How will these perspectives affect your approach to marital decision making?
  6. Some readers might conclude that the quest for a soul mate is being replaced by the search for a spiritual super-star. How do Kathy Keller’s observations counter this notion?
  7. Review the summary chart: “God’s Design for Marriage At-a-Glance” (page 144).
  • What are the values of this chart to you as a single Christian?
  • What commitments would maximize the potential for fulfilling God’s design in a future marriage?
  • How does each aspect of God’s design affect what you would be looking for in a potential spouse?