Questions: Introduction to Part 1

  1. Tom and Sandee were taught: “As a Christian, you can expect God to tell you whether and whom to marry.” Were you taught the same thing, or did you receive different messages from your spiritual leaders?
  2. What is your reaction to the author’s contention that this formulation of divine guidance is a myth?
  3. Decision making is governed by identity which is determined by relationship. 
  • How is a Christian’s relationship to God different from that of an unbeliever?
  • How is a Christian’s identity different from that of an unbeliever?
  • How do these differences affect the process of decision making for Christians?
  • How would a believer’s choices be different from those of a non-Christian in each of these areas:
    • spending money?
    • use of time?
    • recreational pursuits?
    • personal goals?
    • approach to dating?
  1. Reflect on some decisions you have made recently. How would the process have been different if you had been consciously asking this question: “Of the options available to me, which one would most advance the rule and righteousness of God in my life and/or the lives of others?” Would the actual choices have been the same or different?
  2. How do you think a commitment to Kingdom-advancement would affect your experience of personal happiness?
  3. What practical steps can you take to make decisions that are more distinctively Christian (i.e. Kingdom-oriented)?