Endnotes: Introduction

  1. Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, a History: From Obedience to Intimacy or How Love Conquered Marriage (New York: Viking Penguin, 2005), 2.
  2. Stephanie Coontz, “Why marriage today takes more love, work – from both partners,” The Christian Science Monitor, June 28, 2005, online: www.stephaniecoontz.com/articles/article19.htm, accessed 6 June 2009.
  3. My conviction that the Bible is reliable revelation from God is based on the compelling evidence for the literary and historical integrity of the text plus the impact of the Bible’s message on my life. It is the portal through which I encounter the living God. If you wish to better understand the reasons for believing the Bible as the Word of God, here are some resources that may be helpful: Amy Orr-Ewing, Why Trust the Bible? (InterVarsity Press, 2011); Understanding Scripture: An Overview of the Bible’s Origin, Reliability, and Meaning, ed. Wayne Grudem (Wheaton, IL: Crossway, 2012); Is the Bible Reliable?: Building the Historical Case, ed. Ray Seldomridge (Wheaton IL: Tyndale House, 2011), a 10-session DVD series produced by Focus on the Family; D.A. Carson, The God Who Is There: Finding Your Place in God’s Story (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2010); Timothy Keller, The Reason for God: Belief in an Age of Skepticism (New York, NY: Dutton, 2008), especially chapters 6-7.
  4. I am using myth in the popular sense of “an unproved or false collective belief that is used to justify a social institution” (www.dictionary.com).
  5. Garry Friesen with J. Robin Maxson, Decision Making and the Will of God: A Biblical Alternative to the Traditional View (Sisters, OR: Multnomah Publishers). The original version of this book was published in 1980; an updated, revised edition was published in 2004.
  6. Singleness, Marriage, and the Will of God contains a four-chapter unit on “God’s Design for Sex” that was omitted from this book. While that subject is certainly related to marital decision making, it is not integral to the process in the way the included topics are. This volume does include a chapter on cohabitation (12) in which biblical principles of sexuality are addressed.
  7. In particular, the presentation on three competing visions of marriage in contemporary culture (see chapter 8) is original to this book.
  8. James 1:5.